Do you pay attention to your emotions and the feelings of those around you? The answer to this question can help you discover how in tune you are with your emotions and help determine your emotional intelligence quotient, or your EQ.
Your emotional intelligence quotient is your capacity to reason and analyze emotional information. Becoming aware of your emotions can help you become attuned to your own needs and the needs of others, and can help you make better decisions and develop better relationships.
Leaders with a strong mixture of emotional awareness, self-management, and social skills navigate relationships more effectively and are more likely to be successful in their personal and professional lives.
When you are intelligent about your emotions, you're aware that the hardest work is managing the emotions that get in the way of your best performance.
Probably the most essential skill involved in Emotional Intelligence is self-management. It usually rides on the tail of self-awareness…when you notice an emotion. What can happen is that an emotional response takes on a life of its own, gets hijacked, or snowballs into a reaction that is difficult to control.
With self-management skills, you nip it in the bud and control the inward interpretations and outward behaviors associated with strong emotions. You not only self-manage in the moment but you begin to regulate how you typically respond to things that push your buttons. You build a proactive approach to emotional intelligence – first with your awareness and then a natural flow into self-management.
Another reason why self-management is so important is that with it, the relational side of emotional intelligence tends to flow better. You gain appreciation for the challenge of controlling emotional impulses and become more empathetic and patient with others.